Among several famous Will Rogers sayings is this one: “I never met a man I didn’t like.” It is a joke almost as old as the original publication of that line in 1927: “Yeah, but he never met So-and-so” (fill in the name of whoever you are claiming even Will Rogers wouldn’t like).
The opposite old saying is this: “Familiarity breeds contempt.”
Continue reading “Have you ever really met him/her?”
Is there something in you that you keep coming back to? What does that tell you about yourself?
I haven’t written anything here for awhile. In fact, I haven’t written much of anything at all for awhile. That doesn’t mean I haven’t been creating–I have been experimenting quite a bit with Facebook Live and other video. I’ve been getting my creative muscles flexed–but I still come back to writing and speaking over and over again. It’s just who I am.
Continue reading “What’s your base?”
I have started a Facebook video series to share speaking tips (and some writing tips, but focused on “out loud”). I’m going to try to do this twice a week (Tuesdays and Thursdays) to see how it goes. After we get going, I’ll broadcast live so people can interact during the broadcast, but the recording will remain available.
You don’t have to have a Facebook account to see it. But if you have one, “like” the page while you are there to make it easy to see more content as it comes out.
You can see the first Coffee with Donn video here.
I haven’t written anything here in forever. We’ve talked before about those times when the well runs dry, and you just have nothing to say. That’s not what’s been happening with me the last few months. The fact is, I have been overwhelmed with work. I have thought of dozens of things to talk with you about, and thought, “I’ll develop that later,” and then never got time.
On the other hand, I have recorded several Facebook Live videos for other projects I’m working with. These days, I’m finding it easier to do those than to write something. For people who relate to video, it seems that it is a more engaging medium. On the other hand, it is not as casual as reading (you can read a blog post almost anywhere).
So, to help me know where to focus my efforts, would you give me some feedback? Just respond to the quick survey below to help me help you. I don’t want to spend time and effort on something that won’t be useful to you–and I really want to produce something useful to you.
If you express any kind of serious opinion about anything on Facebook, you bring out the trolls and the disagreements.
This is ironic, since Facebook tends to only show you posts that you have shown an interest in. Maybe Facebook with its unlimited post lengths draws people who are more into argument. In other words, maybe some people see the posts they see because Facebook has figured out they like to argue.
Continue reading “Why people only post kitten pictures and videos”
I’ve heard for years from people seeking advice on making their slideware more effective. Slides are not the most important aspect of a talk, but handled incorrectly (and probably 90% of them are), they can suck all the impact right out of a speech or a classroom lecture. With just a few guidelines, though, you don’t have to be a PowerPoint superstar to harness its power to give “out loud” more punch.
We have released a free video called PowerPoint CPR that gives you nine simple steps to follow to put you way above the “normal” in creating slide decks. And who wants to be normal in that regard?
Get your video here.
Hi! We haven’t talked in a few days. My daughter (The Princess) has been having some health issues, and coupled with nursing schedule irregularities, I’ve had to put my attention elsewhere.
But I haven’t forgotten about you! I’ve been working on updating the web site also, incorporating what you told me in response to an earlier question. To help that along, would you respond to a one-question survey about what you would most like to know about using effective speaking to advance your job, career, or business? It would really help me help you. Thanks! Just click this link–and I really appreciate it!
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As I read this article on Surprisingly Simple Ways You Can Trick Your Brain Into Focusing, it strikes me how much of this has to do with effective communication strategies! I guess it really is the basic operating system!
Read the whole thing, but I can tell you that the gist of it is this:
- Don’t multitask.
- Take notes. But don’t try to write down everything you hear. Distill it and summarize.
- Consider other points of view.
- Take breaks.
- Narrow your focus and go deeper.
But get the details from the article. In the meantime, consider getting a copy of Brain Rules: 12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving at Work, Home, and School. (affiliate link)
How do you know what you don’t know?
It can be one of the hardest tasks to get students to go beyond their own opinions, especially those in the traditional college age range. I speak from two-fold experience: 1) When I was that age, I pretty much knew everything. Over the years, I have realized that I still don’t know what I don’t know, but I can tell that there is a lot within that area of the mental map labeled “There be dragons here.” 2) I’ve worked with thousands of college students at this point in my life (rough estimate: about 7,000). Bonus experience: I have four kids over the age of 25. Most have gone from thinking Dad was just stupid to thinking that maybe he know something worthwhile.
Continue reading “Is selection bias limiting your story?”
I’ve written before about the learning curve. We’ve all heard of it, but may not realize it has four distinct regions: unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence, and unconscious competence. Since those four are explained in the earlier post, I’m going to focus on a key characteristic of that middle region, the “conscious” area. Both conscious incompetence and conscious competence are uncomfortable, though for different reasons.
Continue reading “If you want to be effective, get comfortable with being uncomfortable”